Meeting girls at nightlife venues are my top recommendation for those trying to improve their seduction skills. Nightlife venues are high-density, which lets you get a lot of approaches and practice in a short amount of time.
Some good night game venues include:
- Clubs
- Bars
- Lounges
- Concerts and other events
Night game is often boisterous and fast-paced. Because of this, it helps to take a more physical and high energy approach. This includes being more animated with your body language and facial expressions, projecting your voice, and speaking in short, simple sentences so as to be understood. You can also be much more physical during the nighttime, including leading and breaking rapport physically.
For the night game, I often go indirect, especially if it’s in a venue that I frequent. This means that my opens are social in nature and I don’t convey a special interest in any particular girl off the bat. Indirect openers would include “Hey, how do you know everyone here?” and “Hey, I don’t think I’ve introduced myself yet, I’m [Your Name]. Who are you?” These openers convey that you have friends in the area, which lends you status and social proof.
Once I’ve opened the set, I’ll often dive straight into qualification and leading. During night game, I want to immediately begin screening for girls who are down to get pulled that night, and I tailor my qualifications and leads accordingly.
Here are some examples of qualification and leading for night game:
- “Are you adventurous? Oh, really… What’s the craziest thing you’ve done all week?”
- Say “come with me.” Then take her hand and lead her around the venue, stopping to enjoy cool places like photo booths, the bar, etc.
- “Are you a good dancer?” Then lead her to the dance floor and start dancing with her.
Aside from qualifying and leading, you could also tell a story about a crazy, funny time you had. For night game stories, the more raunchy, crazy, or hilarious the better – as long as they paint you in a flattering light. Think of the moments in your life that could be made into TMZ headlines, and tell stories about that. The mindset to have when telling a story is that you’re sharing with the girl for your own amusement and enjoyment, and NOT trying to impress her or make her like you. After all, if she’s spending any amount of time with you in a night game venue, there’s a high chance that she already does like you.
And remember, if you ever go completely blank, that’s totally fine – night game venues are more physical than verbal, so feel free to simply yell “adventure!”, grab her hand, and lead her to do something physical such as dancing, photo booths, or out the front door of the venue to take her home.
You can also screen for logistics, which allows you to find out about her logistical situation for the evening while moving the conversation forward.
Here are some examples of logistical questions for night game:
- “Who are you here with tonight?”
- “Where do you live / how did you get here tonight?”
- “What are you doing tomorrow?”
Asking these questions will get you valuable information about her logistics and let you know if there are any obstacles that you’ll need to overcome in order to pull her. Plus, once you have the answer to a logistical question, you can riff on that topic with her, further adding to the conversation.
Social proof – including preselection – is your secret weapon when it comes to the night game. Build social proof by being friendly and welcoming to everyone in the area. Bounce from group to group instead of sticking to one individual, especially earlier on in the night. This allows people to see that you’re a friendly, social guy with an apparently large amount of social clout, which will have the baddies fighting over you by the end of the night.
Having an after party or another excuse to pull at the end of the night can make your pulling logistics a breeze. When the club closes down, people will want to keep the party going. Knowing where the after-party is or hosting it yourself gives you the best chances of pulling a hot girl from a nighttime venue.